Most days at the projects I am awakened by a text, phone
call, or knocking on my door. Most nights are spent reviewing my inbox and
trying to reply to as much as I can and give as much detail as possible before
my eyes cross and head hits the keyboard. The kids have a box that they can
place their questions, concerns, complaints, and special requests in. The staff
tends to use text or email.
Last night, I had seven emails from one person within an
hour. All of them explaining situations and describing current frustrations.
My natural response is frustration and anger. The feelings
apply to not just the person the email is written about, but towards the writer
as well. So much time is needed to pour into, mold, create, develop a
person/worker of excellence. When a typical reaction would be to fire and get
rid of the problem. My heart is to pause, pray, evaluate, train, correct, and
develop both parties into the employee that we so desperately need.
He said and she said happens all the time. Not just here. It
is a plague that has infested the church and the body of Christ. How quick we
are to act and react! Why don’t we hesitate and contemplate the ENTIRE
situation, then with calm give a response. The way we respond to it separates
us from being just average and a true disciple. What would happen if in the
pause we looked through their eyes?
REACTING! Not only do the employees do this. I DO THIS! I do
this not just with workers, but with kids in the orphanage. Not just those
kids, but my own kids. Worse, I do it with my life partner. What spouse wants
someone that will respond with haste? I don’t that is why I normally reply in
bitter angst. Yours truly. I do that! Me! The one with the heart of gold. Haha.
Last week I think I made a confession to my dad that someone demanded something
of me recently. I didn’t do it. He snickered. I was feverishly angry. “Ask me
for help, I will dedicate my life to it! Demand something from me, my feet will
become stuck in cement as my arms fall off my side.” That is me!
Maybe that is why with our staff you don’t find me
dictating. I will not command or demand. I let them be the mom of the house.
When I see issues I will step in, draw attention to a problem area, and suggest
a different way of handling it. Nobody wants to be ruled with an iron fist.
Look through their eyes, understand the why, the frustration, the education or
lack there of, then with love we can correct. No house mom is working just for
the money. They wouldn’t last. The current group of staff members is there
because of LOVE. Love for Him, Love for them.
My reply to the rambling email complaints was all of that
paragraph above. This immediately brought on an additional three emails full of
apologies, prayers, and asking for more help. Amazing how when we address
things calmly and with love the response that we get in return!
You know the saying, "You can catch more flies with honey than
with vinegar"? Most of my family HATES those words. We are all independent,
leaders, and we tend to be controlling so that we can get the job done the
RIGHT way the FIRST time. Then I married someone just like that. Why? Because I
was dumb and didn’t weigh the frustration that I would feel in having someone
like that permanently by my side. Behind that, is the fact that God knew, I need someone to stand by my side to
get things done. I didn’t need someone that would sit on his butt until I was
run over by the bus I was trying to stop on my own. I needed someone just as
strong and powerful to stop the bus with me, or to push me out of the way when
it wasn’t worth my effort. Now if I can remember to only see that side!
The basis for all help and assistance the root of it all is
LOVE. What motivates you most in life? Are we not all passionate about making
life beautiful and wonderful for the ones we love most? A man will work 20
hours a day to provide for his wife and children. (Driven by love.) A woman
will work a 12 hour shift and come home to cook, clean, and do homework. (Again
it is for love.) If something needs to change, if there is something wrong… How
do you motivate the ones around you to change? Through LOVE!
Me loving you is showing you, changing you, growing you. It
doesn’t matter if it is work, family, or friends. If you don’t do it for love
you won’t stick with it for long. If a subconscious or material need is met by
working your butt off, you will eventually become bitter with your boss. If you
love what you do because of WHO you do it for and because of what will be
produced, at the base you will find love.
I do it for them...
which in turn is for Him!
